We all know someone that might drink a little too much at Christmas, but they just call themselves the life of the party. Or you know someone who will place too many bets at the Boxing Day Races, but they might just say they are letting off some steam.
Coping with those suffering from addictive behaviours can be extremely challenging at the best of times. Yet at Christmas, this can be even more difficult with added levels of pressure and expectation. Whether it’s alcohol, drugs, gambling, or any other forms of addictive behaviour, the presence of addiction within a family or friend unit can create a lot of tension and distress. Approaching the difficult (some might say dreaded) conversation can be even more challenging if the person struggling doesn’t recognise that they have a problem.
If you are facing these challenges, it is important to plan ahead and implement clear boundaries, expectations and a flexible plan. Read Dr. Martha Harrison’s practice advice and strategies as to coping and navigating a loved one’s addictive behaviours at Christmas.
1. Support vs. Responsibility
Notice the difference between providing support versus taking responsibility. We cannot change other people, but we can change how we respond to them.
2. Make Space for a Spectrum of Emotions
Christmas is not straightforward. Try not to put pressure on how things should be and instead pay attention to how they are.
3. Self Care
Put some effort into winding down. In such a busy world we must learn how to relax. Find out what works for you: try breathwork, meditation and connecting with nature. Schedule these breaks regularly for yourself to look after your own mental and physical health.
4. Adapt to Adversity
Find opportunities to learn from setbacks to move forward. Approach conversations from a place of curiosity rather than criticism.
5. Connection
Find time to connect with the person outside of the addictive behaviour. Our identity is who we are, not what we do. Focus on the connection you have together.
It isn’t easy coping with a loved one’s addictive behaviours, but it is possible to navigate the season with clear communication and taking time for yourself. Ensure this Christmas that you maintain the balance between supporting your addictive loved one and taking care of your own wellbeing. Celebrate small wins, keep track of the positives and approach conversations with curiosity, whilst still offering support.
If you or someone you know is struggling to cope with a loved one’s addictive behaviours this Christmas, don’t suffer alone. Reach out to us at Montrose Health Group for support. We are available to help you through this period of change and difficulty.
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